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[whereischristine]

Hi All

I'm new here, to both this site and to panty pooping. My BF and I have done it only once, but it was some time ago and I'm a bit apprehensive about doing it. I love him very much, know that it is important to him and I desperately want to do it. We have spoken about it alot, but he is finding it difficult to verbalize what he wants. We thought a progressive list of things to do to "ease" me into it would help both of us, as I could become comfortable with doing it and he could look forward to things coming up. We've not really be able to come up with a great list, so thought it would be a good idea to get your thoughts. Could anyone come up with a list of progressive things to do, starting for the least extreme, up to the most.

Thanks and look forward to hearing from you.

[Peevert]

I think no one's helping cause they don't want to give you ideas to try with another man. We all want to be the one holding you tight, with a hand on your butt, when you fill your panties.

[Maria]

I suspect Peevert is right about the reason for the lack of answers, but that doesn’t apply to me.

I got divorced in my middle 30s, around the time that the Internet first became common, so of course I was one of those who thought, “Hey, maybe I can meet some real perverts.” It wasn’t difficult. The first time was fun, in fact the guy is still a good e-mail buddy, but the next two liaisons I arranged got progressively creepier, so I stopped. Still, I do have some experiences to share.

It doesn’t surprise me that your bf finds it hard to talk about. Most guys have spent a lifetime trying to keep their mouths tightly shut about their little passion, for fear of being outed as a pervert. The only reason I knew what my liaisons wanted was because we had done a lot of e-mail. For some reason, the impersonal quality of e-mail as a medium helps people to say things they would otherwise not say. So if he has trouble talking about it, maybe he should down a few stiff drinks and send you a sexy e-mail. Otherwise, you may have to be the one to take the initiative and ask detailed questions. Does he want you to do it in your underwear? In diapers? In clothing but without panties? Don’t be afraid to ask. Some people have very specific tastes. The first time I did it with a guy, I already knew he wanted to see my underwear filling up with a big bulge, so it was easy enough to bend over a chair, lift my dress, and do exactly what he wanted.

When you figure out what he wants you to do, you need to start thinking about yourself. Some people perform their initial experiments in the bathroom. If the pooper (usually the woman) finds the sensation of loaded underwear to be distasteful or unpleasant – which is a possibility your bf will need to acknowledge – then at least the shower and a good clean-up are only a few steps away.

Also, you need to think about privacy. Even if doing it in public is part of your bf’s fantasy – and believe me, it is VERY common – I wouldn’t recommend it for your first try, or even until you are experienced and make a decision that you enjoy this fetish and want it to be part of your love life. I would start at home. I don’t know if you live together or separately, but you will probably want to choose a place where no one is likely to come knocking unexpectedly. If you are young and have the sort of friends who drop by for a beer without calling first, this can be a problem. If it really is a problem, consider a motel room. Nothing ruins the passion of a sexy experiment faster than biting your nails and worrying about whether Fred might stop by to return that borrowed CD. But if one you has a home where no one is likely to intrude, I would recommend doing it there.

The mildest form of this fetish is probably the one where the woman does it in her panties and the man watches. Smearing and serious scat are much more extreme, and probably something that should wait until later.

Just my opinions. Hope you enjoy your experience.

[DeltaFoxtrot]

To offer an honest suggestion, try it by yourself first.

Go out to wal-mart or wherever after work. Buy a $5 pack of briefs, a small box of fiber pills and a tub of baby wipes. The briefs are for going in, no need to mess up good panties. The fiber pills will add bulk and solidity to your stool and will make it easier to "go" without cramping. The wipes will help with cleanup.

Before you go to bed take 2 or 3 of the fiber pills and drink two glasses of water. The fiber needs plenty of water to do its thing. Go ahead and put on a pair of the cheap-o underwear, that way you will be ready to take care of business first thing in the morning. Also, get two plastic grocery bags and put those and your tub of wipes by the toilet. They will be used for cleanup.

When you get up in the morning, don't use the toilet. It may take 10-20mins for your bowels to wake up, but you'll know when the time is right. When it's time to do the deed simply go stand in the tub/shower. You'll have to overcome the mental block that toilet training puts in place. Push a little and be patient, nature will take its course in a few moments. While you are pooping you may lose control of your bladder, don't worry about it... it'll run down the drain.

Once you've got the load in your panties it's time for cleanup to begin.

Grab one of the plastic grocery bags and lay it open on the floor. Remove the panties slowly, most of the load should stay in the seat of them. Place the panties in the plastic bag. Now grab some wipes and use them to remove any larger bits that may be stuck to your behind. Put the wipes in the bag with the panties.

Once you are satisfied that the larger pieces have been handled simply tie the bag up and set it aside. Shower as usual, anything remaining will be washed down the drain.

When you are through showering you can use the second bag to double up, keeps the smell better contained. Toss the bags directly in the main trash outside your place.

There you go... you've successfully pooped in your panties and nobody is the wiser. Repeat as often as you like, or until you are comfortable with the method... then you can move on to different places and situations.

[Adrian6970]

My advice would be to make sure that at the time you're wearing an old pair of panties - and possibly an old pair of jeans - which wouldn't matter too much if they had to be binned afterwards.

Also, try to be relaxed about it. Yes it's naughty in the sense you'll be doing something which for good reasons you were specifically trained not to do at an early age. However in this context it's something you're doing as a grown woman from choice, not because you can't help it or don't know better.

Finally try and work with the natural rythms of your body. You must have a pretty good idea when you're likely to need to poo naturally and try and time it coincide with that. Also I guess there there must have been times when you've needed to poo but put it off for whatever reason, possibly to the point where you've been doing farts. Well, messing yourself could simply be an extension of that, a farting session which doesn't culminate in a trip to the toilet because you'll do it in your pants.

I hope it goes well and I look forward to hearing that it's worked satisfactorily. Unlike wettings where enough cups of coffee will produce fairly swift results, #2 'accidents' are difficult to stage as bowels tend to be a law unto themselves and most people's ubringing militates against them shitting themselves in normal circumstances.

[Percival]

All good advice here. Personally, I like to insert a flushable nappy liner into the back of my chosen underwear. That way I can just pull them down and let the liner and 'cargo' drop into the toilet bowl. It avoids the bathroom smelling too much (I live with family).
A bidet or Japanese toilet with a water jet would be ideal. One day...

[whereischristine]

Hi All

Thanks very much for all your very helpful and insighful responses. My bf and I read through some of the responses and it was a great way to open up. Weve had some great talks (although Im sure he for a little less conversation and a little more action). There appears to not be a way to "ease me into it", but I do think Maria and deltafoxtrot's suggestion of trying it on my own and is a great one. Im just trying to find some time when I am actually on my own. Tonight is the first night on my own since I posted and I find that I dont need to go Im pretty comfortable with the idea of doing it, I suppose Im just worried about the smell, what if I fart (LOL), and what if he laughs... or I do! Im not very good at playacting. Anyway... I promise Ill do it by myself and for him before the end of the month.

Catch up soon.

[adventurer]

Go Slow

CAUTION
Go slow, don’t take laxatives, and be natural! Try to time your actions to be alone for the first few times. Maria is a good advisor however other advisors tell you to use laxatives this may make a mess you are not ready for. If you are normally firm and apprehensive try this the first few times:

When you feel you need to poop go into the bathroom and sit on the toilet and relax, your mussels will relax and the poop will start to move. There is a point where you haven’t let it out but you know if it is solid, semi solid, soft or diarrhea. If the consistency is undesirable then let it out and wait until the next time. If it feels solid; quickly stand up pull up your garments and continue to push. If it is solid or semi solid cleanup will be easy. You can do this any time just tell your boyfriend that you are going to take a shower after using the bathroom and that you are experimenting to see if panty pooping will work for you and that you need privacy at first. He should understand. Ideally you should do this when you are alone or he may insist in you continuing a practice that you may not like.

Never pee when you poop your panties at the same time if you can help it when you are experimenting for the first time. You may not like the mess and it may turn you off to the whole practice.

Go slow there may come a time when the bathroom may be used only for pee and showers. The freedom is both convenient and rewarding.

Let us know what you decide to do this forum could use new members and new stories.

[adventurer]

Go Slow

CAUTION
Go slow, don’t take laxatives, and be natural! Try to time your actions to be alone for the first few times. Maria is a good advisor however other advisors tell you to use laxatives this may make a mess you are not ready for. If you are normally firm and apprehensive try this the first few times:

When you feel you need to poop go into the bathroom and sit on the toilet and relax, your mussels will relax and the poop will start to move. There is a point where you haven’t let it out but you know if it is solid, semi solid, soft or diarrhea. If the consistency is undesirable then let it out and wait until the next time. If it feels solid; quickly stand up pull up your garments and continue to push. If it is solid or semi solid cleanup will be easy. You can do this any time just tell your boyfriend that you are going to take a shower after using the bathroom and that you are experimenting to see if panty pooping will work for you and that you need privacy at first. He should understand. Ideally you should do this when you are alone or he may insist in you continuing a practice that you may not like.

Never pee when you poop your panties at the same time if you can help it when you are experimenting for the first time. You may not like the mess and it may turn you off to the whole practice.

Go slow there may come a time when the bathroom may be used only for pee and showers. The freedom is both convenient and rewarding.

Let us know what you decide to do this forum could use new members and new stories.

[whereischristine]

All,

Thanks for all your messages and comments. Unfortunately, after I told him I wasnt comfortable with going though it, he switched off and broke up with me a week or so later.

Thanks to everyone though for your support.
XX

[Apemantus]

All,

Thanks for all your messages and comments. Unfortunately, after I told him I wasnt comfortable with going though it, he switched off and broke up with me a week or so later.

Thanks to everyone though for your support.
XX

Really? Wow, that's an 11 for him on the asshole scale!

[Maria]

Let all you guys understand:

Patience is a virtue.

If you find a gal who will even CONSIDER loading her panties, give her some time. Give her some space. Don't push her.

As they say: "All good things come to those who wait."

[papabear]

Whoaw that's pretty bad !
I feel Sorry for you. You made an effort and tried to be understanding, he was ungrateful. Well, it may not make you feel too much better right now, but I don't think he deserved you.

I hope things will brighten up and you'll find somebody nice soon.

[bmbert]

I'm sorry that he was impatient. Hopefully you'll work up the courage to do it in front of someone else who does have the patience to wait.

[wannes]

Pardon me, but what a damn prick, in the case of the breakup being solely due to your reluctancy of
going through with this. Not to lose focus: you're a great gal for even Beginning to consider it.

Smell ya later (we hope, lol! ), Christine!