Hate It.

[Scotsboy]

There is no point in hating yourself because of a fetish. It is part of who you are. Once you have opened the gates, you cannot shut them again.

I became aware of my watersports interests pretty early, still in my teens. For years I was married to a man who had no interest. My efforts to suppress my feelings led only to a series of recurring dreams, so powerful that I was always amazed when I woke up next to my husband and found that the bed was still dry.

How rare is this fetish? After I got divorced, I was able to experiment more. If I was dating someone I really liked, I might drop some not-so-subtle hints. This resulted in a few wet, sexy experiences. I suspect many a man gets a stiff one when a grown woman wets her pants, but because it is socially taboo, such a man may be surprised at his reaction, unwilling to follow where it leads -- which is to a very primal part of ourselves, the primal instinct which sometimes leads young girls to wet their pants with sexual excitement at rock concerts, etc.

I agree with those who say that this fetish gets better with age, and that middle-aged folks are more likely to get their fantasies fulfilled than some of you younger ones. While most men reach their sexual peak in the late teens or early twenties, women do not reach the same peak until their mid thirties, though they often sustain it until menopause. This is when our fantasy lives become intense, when we are open to the endless possibilities of sexual experimentation. By that time, most women have seen the delight in a toddler's eyes when the floodgates burst, and we have heard a few stories, and so on. Also, stress incontinence is not unusual in women over forty, especially if they have had several pregnancies.

Many a middle-aged man has found himself with an unexpected hard on when the wife has an accident. Believe me, I have been in e-mail contact with a number of such people, and you would perhaps be surprised to know how many ordinary looking middle-aged couples have managed to work a bit of wet fun into their sex lives. I should know. I am one of them. My current boyfriend didn't have a connection with this fetish in his youth, it was only when he was in his forties and his wife started having accidents that he realized it was a turn-on. I am now the beneficiary of his passion, and very happy about it!

Love yourself, persevere, and don't be afraid to speak up when you meet a woman you know you can trust.

I'm surprised he's still not with his wife if he found himself turned on by her accidents. This thread has been mainly about the difficulties of finding a wetting partner, yet in some instances, when they do discover they have a partner who wets, it's still not enough.

[Nobody]

There is more to a relationship than this fetish, the break-up can have a completely different cause, maybe they did not love eachother anymore. When you have this fetish as a man and have a wife that wets, it does not mean you can not possibly break up anymore.

[TVGuy]

There is more to a relationship than this fetish, the break-up can have a completely different cause, maybe they did not love eachother anymore. When you have this fetish as a man and have a wife that wets, it does not mean you can not possibly break up anymore.

I agree completely. My ex-girlfriend and I shared this fetish, but we were completely different people. I realized that I would be happier with someone who truly loved and respected me, even if we didn't share in this fetish together. Even though having someone to share this fetish with is great, its not everything.

[Adrian6970]

I have chatted by email with quite a few women who liked wetting - indeed who were pretty serious about it.

One woman from Germany, explained how she was really upset because she tried wetting in front of her boyfriend, and he dumped her. I talked her back into feeling good about herself.

Another woman, who traveled a lot on business, explained how she would wet the hotel bed a tiny bit for fun, but didn't dare to do a serious wetting. Under my encouragement, she wet the bed properly, and left a big tip for the maid!

At age 52, I actually met one email contact, and she wet herself for me, and other things Unfortunately, we could not meet again.

I had another email friend, who would wet herself while talking to me on the phone - though we never actually met.

Even so, I haven't had a real partner who was into wetting, but I think the thing is not to get too obsessed by a fetish - try to think of it as a bit of extra fun.

Even so, I can't help feeling jealous of TVGuy

David

Hi David. I know ir's off-topic but it's great to see you here. I remember you well from another board.

Best wishes

Adrian

[Peevert]

There is no point in hating yourself because of a fetish. It is part of who you are...

I became aware of my watersports interests pretty early, still in my teens. For years I was married to a man who had no interest. My efforts to suppress my feelings led only to a series of recurring dreams, so powerful that I was always amazed when I woke up next to my husband and found that the bed was still dry.

I remember intentionally peeing in my bathing suit (not because I had to pee - because I enjoyed the feeling) as young as about 6 years old. Even before then, probably around 4 years old, there were times when I intentionally peed my pants a little in an effort to enjoy it, but hide it from my friends. So apparently my fetish developed very early in life.

I became aware of it (in that I started fantasizing about it) around 12. My first wet dream was watching a girl from school pee her pants. When I tried to suppress my feelings in my later teens, like you, it only led to more intense dreams. In my opinion, there is no suppressing this, so you might as well enjoy it.

[fnooks]

Thanks for all the replies, I'd like to point out I was drunk when I started this thread, and tend to get a bit emotional when drunk. I don't hate the fetish in as much as it turns me on like nothing els. However it's things like chatting to your mates and them telling their fantasy's like being tied up or tying someone up,spanking, feet, two women. all this seems more socially acceptable than saying " I'd like to see a women wet herself". anyway I suppose we have to live with what we're given.... Hope you all look forward to my next drunken rant lol... I'll try not too.