Letting others know you are into WS.

[KingPlant]

Isn't it strange now heterosexuals are far more inhibited than gay people.

I say this because two or three years ago there were discussions taking place on here to come up with a badge or some token so we can let other people know we are also into wetting.

In the gay community they already have such a badge. Well it's not a badge, it's a handkerchief. A yellow one.

If you are into Golden showers and want to be peed on you put the handkerchief in the left back pocket of your jeans. If you like peeing on someone you wear it in your right back pocket.

Is the fact that gay people still have issues coming out as gay that when they do they think, well nothing is as hard to do as that so telling someone I am into pissing also is nothing to be worried about.

[Vic]

How about a poll?

So, folks, what's your preference? Hanky in left pocket (receiving), right pocket (giving), or both?!
Put me down for BOTH, as long as it's my Dear Wife Marie!
Best Wishes- Vic

[tinkletown]

What I find interesting about this is that the yellow handkerchief was referenced on the show "Rescue Me" a few years back. I've also seen other references to watersports in other tv shows and movies, though never really in an accepting manner. I think the watersports fetish is becoming more main stream (definitely no pun intended).

[Lloyd_R1]

Mainstream watersports

Interesting. I've been saying it's becoming more mainstream for years to which people have been telling me I'm imagining it. Now it looks like it might actually be after all....

[KingPlant]

It's funny you should say that because the way I found out this little gem was from the TV here in the UK. We have a chap (Steven Fry) who is well known that hosts a show called QI (quite interesting). He is Gay and lets everyone know it but without being a campo....

[Lloyd_R1]

Stephen Fry??

Wow, Stephen Fry has talked about it? That's amazing. I know Stephen Fry as an actor in many fine films, and various other shows. For someone as well know as he is to be talking about this stuff.... So is that saying that it's more common in the gay community, but not in the hetero community? Hmm, I guess that leaves quite a few of us out in the cold...

[DeltaFoxtrot]

Badges? We don't need no stinking badges.

Honestly I find the whole fetish symbol/flag/sign/token/hankie in whatever pocket thing completely absurd. I really don't feel the need to advertise to strangers what my particular kink might be.

I'd rather you get to know me as a person first... then if things progress to a point where we know and trust eachother (and if it's relevant) I might share whatever deviant habits I happen to be into.

[Razz]

Honestly I find the whole fetish symbol/flag/sign/token/hankie in whatever pocket thing completely absurd.

And completely 1975. We should all meet up at Studio 54 later.

[Maria]

I honestly do feel that the topic is becoming a bit more mainstream.

Does anyone remember that episode on "How I Met Your Mother" where the woman sits down next to a man and remarks, in the most seductive way possible, "I think I just, uh, peed in my pants."

I don't think we would have seen this sort of thing on prime time TV a few years ago. This, by the way, is the same girl who mentions a boss that imposes limitations on female workers' bathroom visits, and she remarks: "Wouldn't that be totally HOT, having some cute guy tell you when you can and can't pee?"

TV is changing.

In the old days, a few "art films" approached the subject of erotic wetting, notably "Stealing Beauty" and "The Concrete Garden," but wetting eroticism was limited to "fine art cinema" and would never have even been alluded to on a prime time show.

Also, "back in the old days," one would NEVER have seen a blatant tickle wetting like the one Jenny McCarthy performed on the Howard Stern show, obviously on purpose (her predilections are well known) and obviously with blatant sexual content.

I grew up in LA, and have a friend who free lances for a couple of public relations agencies and, as a bit of a "special friend," he knows I'm a wetter. He says that the P.R. girls and production assistants had quite a job making sure that Fergie never saw any of the wildly erotic messages sent to her agency after her notorious onstage wetting. But apparently the news did in fact reach her ears -- though I have no idea how she felt about it.

I hope that wetting will someday be at least as "normal" as, for example, a blatantly deliberate upskirt from Paris Hilton or Pam Anderson, BUT....It's slow, much too slow, though I continue to hope that someday it will be acceptable to admit that we are no different than other mammals for whom urination is part of the ritual of arousal.

Because I think it really is!

[KingPlant]

Badges? We don't need no stinking badges.

Honestly I find the whole fetish symbol/flag/sign/token/hankie in whatever pocket thing completely absurd. I really don't feel the need to advertise to strangers what my particular kink might be.

I'd rather you get to know me as a person first... then if things progress to a point where we know and trust each other (and if it's relevant) I might share whatever deviant habits I happen to be into.

If you are anything to go by I can see it would never take off. I put that down to you being embarrassed at the fact you like to see someone wet themselves and deep down you are ashamed.

I have never felt the need to wear a 'badge of honour' but there again, I do have the ability to tell people from day one what I am about. If you consider the fetish as a thing you can live without then you are a better man than I am.

All my life I have loved seeing women pee and especially wetting themselves. I am in a happy relationship that is so solid I know I am going to get pissed forever so I don't need a badge, but if I wasn't in a relationship I would have no problem wearing one.

Have I got balls or what - lol

As for letting people get to know you first, how in the hell can they when you keep something as big as our fetish from them. At what point in the relationship do you spill the beans. If she was to outright ask you what you liked sexually, would you tell her then?

Usually when you think a relationship could go somewhere don't you sit down and spill about all the past relationships and why they failed. Do you not include in that conversation that it was probably because, after two years dating, you only just revealed that you are into pissing, and they wanted to know why you kept that from them for such a long time.

[DeltaFoxtrot]

Usually when you think a relationship could go somewhere don't you sit down and spill about all the past relationships and why they failed. Do you not include in that conversation that it was probably because, after two years dating, you only just revealed that you are into pissing, and they wanted to know why you kept that from them for such a long time.

Considering I'm happily married... this is really a non issue.

[KingPlant]

Considering I'm happily married... this is really a non issue.

In that case she now knows all about your love of watersports and probably doesn't mind you coming on here.

[Aloo]

KingPlant, the official expert on your relationship.



What a jackass lol. The funniest thing is he goes on about his amazing pissy sex life, yet he spends all his time posting on this forum.

Aloo

[wetfan]

I actually have heard the same thing, along with a few other colours to represent other sexual interests and preferences.

Also I agree, I think the gay community might be (as a whole) more open about what they are interested in with one another. I'm not sure why that is. Perhaps it's because most gay people have to overcome the hurtle of just coming out as being gay and from that point on everything else seems simple? That's just my guess though.

If you're able to share with your partners your interest then I think that is awesome. That isn't something I'm able to do. I suppose my personal hesitation comes from not being able to really guess what their reaction can be. I mean you can test the waters a little ahead of time, but when faced with such a revelation I'm not sure if it will become something they can get over. And you can't take back something like that. Also you can't guarantee the person you once trusted will tell everyone about it.

How have your girlfriends reacted in the past?

[quietpr11]

If you are anything to go by I can see it would never take off. I put that down to you being embarrassed at the fact you like to see someone wet themselves and deep down you are ashamed.

I have never felt the need to wear a 'badge of honour' but there again, I do have the ability to tell people from day one what I am about. If you consider the fetish as a thing you can live without then you are a better man than I am.

All my life I have loved seeing women pee and especially wetting themselves. I am in a happy relationship that is so solid I know I am going to get pissed forever so I don't need a badge, but if I wasn't in a relationship I would have no problem wearing one.

Have I got balls or what - lol

As for letting people get to know you first, how in the hell can they when you keep something as big as our fetish from them. At what point in the relationship do you spill the beans. If she was to outright ask you what you liked sexually, would you tell her then?

Usually when you think a relationship could go somewhere don't you sit down and spill about all the past relationships and why they failed. Do you not include in that conversation that it was probably because, after two years dating, you only just revealed that you are into pissing, and they wanted to know why you kept that from them for such a long time.

Or...alternatively, he simply thinks sexual discussions should wait for intimate moments with someone you trust, rather than being broadcast to everyone with the loudest megaphone possible.

I don't start my search for love and intimacy with a checklist of sexual things I want...that takes all of the fun of mutual sexual discovery away and leaves you thinking of sex only as something that is "fun"...not deeply meaningful. Not everyone who doesn't want to broadcast their sexual proclivities is ashamed of them. I am not ashamed of my fetish...not in the slightest. I just believe that is information that should be restricted to those people who might find themselves in a situation where my revealing that information is a meaningful expression of my desire to be vulnerable and intimate with them...not a blurb in the want ads or Craigslist "single male seeks wetting fun - girl I actually care about optional."